Here’s the deal – even if we go back, we’re still foreign. If we stay, then we’re still kind of foreign. You can either bitch about it, accept it, or do something about it. That’s the whole point behind every Jhumpa Lahiri novel, every angsty post and comment on this blog, is our ultimate lack of belonging. It’s not necessarily a bad thing – it’s just the way the cookie crumbles.

The dissatisfaction among Asian men hopefully can drive them back to the greener pastures of their motherland, where they will be better appreciated, and help their homeland to develop faster.

Here’s the deal – even if we go back, we’re still foreign. If we stay, then we’re still kind of foreign. You can either bitch about it, accept it, or do something about it. That’s the whole point behind every Jhumpa Lahiri novel, every angsty post and comment on this blog, is our ultimate lack of belonging. It’s not necessarily a bad thing – it’s just the way the cookie crumbles.

Thanks Thoreaulylazy. I have the same impression about that stupid term. Of limited use and what use is done, is mostly misunderstood. You’re right–who really wants loud, egotistical people around for more than entertainment? Even the brave guys who fight fires and jump into the river to rescue a drowner, are not likely to be self-centered egotists. Rather, they are extroverts, physically fit, and feel involved, even concerned, with the world around them.

I’ve been here nearly 5 years. Maybe my comments about Koreans and Christianity were poorly written…I know quite a few Koreans, and I’ve dated some too. A lot are not as religious as you think – that’s what I’m saying…I’m well aware K-town is full of churches – I lived about about 2 miles from K town for 2 years! I’m very well aware that there are a lot of very religious Koreans out there, but I’ve never had one of them try to convert me. I’ve had mexicans approach me before.

In response to me saying I’m Punjabi, well I identify as Punjabi before Indian. I’ve got a lot more in common with the average Pakistani that the average Gujurati or Bengali.

In respose to me saying that white women are not a big deal…well the average white British guy would rather date an Indian or European girl over an East or SE Asian girl.

One thing that strikes me when I go to UK is how invisible east Asians are in the popular culture there. Indian stuff is a lot more influential. If you watch BBC News 24 on cable you will notice that there are a lot of British Indian and British Pakistanis there.

UK is actually more racist than the US when it comes to climbing the upper echelons of business. There’s a VERY strong “old boy” network there. I read a couple of years ago that the highest ranked Indian-origin banker in London was an Indian-American guy seconded to London.

Are the Afros, Hispanics, Italians, Filipinos, Slavs, Scandinavians, Irish, Arabs et al who are heavily underrepresented at high schools like Stuyvesant and Ivy League Colleges really dumber than the Chinese and Jews?

I can’t find how many Indians there are at Stuyvesant, but for sure they are only a fraction of the Chinese.

Eh, not so sure about this. In the circles I’ve run in, most of the South Asian kids had access to all of these. That’s not to say they were utilized completely or the same as “upper-middle-class white kids,” but to say that white kids are economically advantaged over South Asian kids just seems false.