Respect and appreciation for all our parents did to get us where we are now Emphasis on education/working hard Strong belief that marriage is forever (both of our parents have been married for 40+ years)

To me, these are way more important than whether he understands Tamil (heck, I don’t even speak it), or wants to celebrate Diwali.

When raising our child, it’s way more important to me that she learn about and respect all cultures, rather than being raised with one particular set of traditions. I don’t want her thinking that other cultures’ food is “weird” or someone in ethnic dress looks “funny”, etc.

But unlike my own upbringing, I’m not going to make her wear Indian clothes or go to Indian Sunday school, etc. If she wants to go when she’s old enough, that’s fine, but there was definitely a pressure to be “more Indian” that I and my desi friends felt while we were growing up. And to be honest, I’m still bitter about that, I’ll admit it.

I love the comment that someone (metal mickey?) made about Indian culture not dying out anytime soon

Rohit’s Balance Sheet

Credits: * Has cut off parents’ apron strings * Red Lamborghini

Debits: * Too indenpendent to tie spouse’s apron strings

Overall assessment: * Sigh! Maybe those mama’s boys are the best tradeoff, after all

So what are you saying Radhika?

@Rohit: serious question – did you anticipate anyone in your South Asian community having problems with your career choice? Just a thought. I’m not saying that you should pick a career based on other people’s ideas of what you should do, but still… Also, reread my post. It talks about HEALTHY boundaries between an adult and his/her parents. Parents setting strict but healthy limits for a CHILD =/= subjugation.

@ugly truth & obviously anonymous: How was she being confrontational? I guess I didn’t read her comments that way or maybe I just missed something. Frankly, this is a blog where anyone and their grandma are given the choice to comment. It’s up to the moderators to delete comments they deem inappropriate, trolling, etc. I personally like that metal mickey gave a more global perspective, even though it may not have been delivered in the most polished fashion.

@shilip: Every loving parent gives up a LOT for their kids, regardless of their race. I’d like to see you go up to a non-immigrant parent and tell them what you just said here.

Well that does hurt…I’ll just try and console myself by swimming in my money scrooge mc’duck style :):)

HEY! Be nice. Let’s not say anything we can’t take back here. . .