Comments on: Desi Douche of the Day

By: phillygrrl

phillygrrl — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:05:24 +0000

To echo Anna, ‘There is no blog which has tried harder to foster dialog between ABDs and DBDs than this one.’ I apologize if anyone felt this post demeaned them or their families. That was not my intention. My intention was to provide some mid-work-week entertainment and perhaps foster some good-natured humor. But it’s degenerated into a discussion that highlights the hurt some feel over what they consider an unfair, ill-natural depiction of their culture. Clearly Iâ€™ve hit a nerve. I think thatâ€™s another post for another time. But to reiterate, this is just a goofy guy pulling a goofy V-Day stunt. Thank you all for your comments.

By: ptr_vivek

ptr_vivek — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:02:57 +0000

Wow. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I find Shilpa’s comment to be really heartfelt and genuine. I hope whoever it’s intended for sees it for what it is, and doesn’t allow their standards for logic or historical arguments cloud their judgement.

By: Shilpa

Shilpa — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:55:53 +0000

Thanks, PS!

By: PS

PS — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:53:53 +0000

Do fascists give up power when they lose elections? No. Did the BJP? Yes. Do fascists wage offensive wars? Yes. Did the BJP wage aggressive wars when it held national power? No. Do fascists favor social darwinism? Yes. Who was forcibly sterilizing SC/ST/OBC? Oh, right--Indira Gandhi from that horrible family you worship as deities, not the BJP. Your tired talking points are detached from reality

wow Shilpa, great response...

By: Shilpa

Shilpa — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:50:23 +0000

66 Â· Arjhun 64 Â· Shilpa The conflation of BJP and fascist is insulting. But it is accurate.

Do fascists give up power when they lose elections? No. Did the BJP? Yes. Do fascists wage offensive wars? Yes. Did the BJP wage aggressive wars when it held national power? No. Do fascists favor social darwinism? Yes. Who was forcibly sterilizing SC/ST/OBC? Oh, right--Indira Gandhi from that horrible family you worship as deities, not the BJP. Your tired talking points are detached from reality.

By: Arjhun

Arjhun — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:41:07 +0000

64 Â· Shilpa The conflation of BJP and fascist is insulting.

But it is accurate.

By: raj

raj — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:26:36 +0000

This FOB is embarrassing

By: Shilpa

Shilpa — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:24:01 +0000

57 Â· metal mickey Maybe you should work on your charming personalities instead. Hint: being a BJP fascist might not get you laid as easily as you may think.

The BJP reference is gratuitous. The conflation of BJP and fascist is insulting. You are way out of line.

By: Al beruni

Al beruni — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 17:44:22 +0000

the responses are much more interesting than the video – and, yes, I agree that the post has an element of ABD’s sniggering at IBD’s – without much knowledge of context or background.

In fairness, there is plenty that happens the other way around as well….

By: A N N A

A N N A — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 17:27:29 +0000

Let me commence by thanking Zazou and desidouche for their kind words. I appreciate your support and am grateful that you see me/my intentions clearly. Thank you.

Anna, is this what you and buddies run this blog for? To make fun of your real Desi brethren and feel smug and happy afterward?

We “run” this blog because in 2004, we were each blogging about similar things separately, and we wanted one spot for aggregating such content, so that you didn’t have to go to Abhi’s, Manish’s, Vinod’s or my personal blogs to read about discrimination on the campaign trail or how the brown girl did on ANTM.

I am forced to take issue with your insinuations and their phrasing. “Real Desi brethren”? So only DBDs can lay claim to authenticity? That is ignorant and just exhausting to unpack; it’s also insulting. There is no blog which has tried harder to foster dialog between ABDs and DBDs than this one. And did you notice that terminology? We neither condone nor use the ubiquitous acronym “FOB” because we respect our first-generation friends.

Each blogger here is entitled to their own opinion and their interpretation of current events, just like our commenters are. We don’t speak with one voice, nor do we have an editorial process which approves content. I don’t agree with everything I read here, but I defend my co-bloggers rights to express themselves. There’s a way to convey displeasure with a post that doesn’t denigrate six years of volunteer efforts and I’d encourage everyone to remember that before accusing us of acting in bad faith.

I haven’t watched the video. I don’t know that I would’ve used the word “douche”, myself. But that’s what makes SM unique and hopefully, interesting– we aren’t all the same, and the way we view things differs accordingly. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Would you?