I’m sorry if bringing up child abuse offended you.. I used that example because, since the last research I did was on childrens rights in India, it was the first statistic that came to mind to use as an example of why statistics shouldn’t be used to paint a picture of “everyone” doing “one thing”. For example, 53% of children does seem like an insanely high amount, but I don’t think anyone would forgive me if I used that statistic to say “Don’t marry an Indian because they will abuse your child”. My whole point was, don’t assume or stereotype… using shocking statistics can be sensationalidt, but can they tell the whole story of what is happening on ‘the ground”?

This is where my frustration comes in, as I have to battle against all sorts of stereotypes (not just because I am not Indian, or not Hindu) because I am American specifically… most specifically the “divorce” thing. Especially frustrating because I identify to little with America in general…

45 WTF

Why not parental neglect? It is not the like the dad is cooking for the children either. If the dad understands that his kids are eating a diet devoid of nutrition, he is equally culpable. And what characteristics make this woman a feminist? Do you even know what the word ‘feminism’ means? Certainly, the best moms I know are ardent feminists. And the family you’re talking about — could it be that mom is the primary breadwinner and dad is not keeping up his end of the bargain (ie primary caregiver)?

FYI, you weren’t invalidated purely based on your background on this post. It was what you wrote.

The decision for you and bf to marry is between the two of you. No one can say about the future of your marriage, how long it will last.

Feel free to share you opinion, but expect that others will as well.

I would like to apologize if I have offended you. Obviously my whole discussion point I was trying to make in the beginning didn’t come off correctly, and led to a bunch of random tangents that also didn’t help my argument.

Honestly, if you got to know me (Not from these posts where I have become more and more frustrated and blabbering) you would know that I am not some racist or neo-colonialist. (Nor am I pardesi gori, thank god!)

I’m really sorry if this conversation went the wrong way, I think the whole thing started because of my gut reaction to someone saying that my boyfriend of two years and I should not get married because I am white and hence we will be divorced. This is very personal for me, as some people in India have voiced this opinion to him, which makes things unnecessarily stressful for both of us. I think you can understand why I might feel defensive or stressed out hearing those kinds of comments.

Once people in India who say those sorts of things get to know me, I get comments like “oh, you’re not like other americans” or “wow, you’re practically an Indian” rather than people wanting to admit that maybe some stereotypes or assumptions about americans are not always right.

At the same time, it also frustrates me, that on this website I can’t voice my opinion without getting “but you’re white, what to do you know?” expressed at some point. I would never say that to an Indian person when discussing the U.S., maybe I will disagree with them on some point, but I won’t invalidate their point by lack of American citizenship. It’s not that I think I am right all the time, or that my opinion is better, in fact, I love learning new things through discussion. I just don’t want to be invalidated purely based on my background… invalidate me if I get my facts wrong, not based on where I come from… I’m sure you would want people to do the same for you.

that’s true… let’s fix that sentence

“people need people”

better?”

This is better: In general, human being need human being, but BROWN PEOPLE DO NOT NEED WHITE PEOPLE TO HELP US. Black people don’t need white people to save them, Yellow people don’t need white people, Red people don’t White people. Thanks but no thanks. We people of color are capable of being aware of our problems and working one them.

You don’t seem to realize white racists (AND I AM NOT SAYING YOU ARE A RACIST) used to treat people of color like grown children, unable to really help themselves. Liberals don’t realize they tend to do the same thing even when they are trying to be this, people of the world. Racists brought up and exaggerated all the problems among people of color, and liberals in their quest not to be like racists and help people of color also tend to bring up in disproportion the problems among people of color and present it in a way that doesn’t show the same problems among white populations. That is why you saw many desi’s bring up the same problems in the West among non-desis.

Sameer, or anybody for that matter, does NOT have to explain what he does or doesn’t do for his people.

Why don’t you list all that you have done for your people, sweetheart?

Is this dipshit Pardesi Gori, by any chance? Or are there clones of her running around India trying to save the brown savages.