Comments on: Murder-Suicide in Silicon Valley Claims Five Innocent Lives http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/ All that flavorful brownness in one savory packet Sat, 30 Nov 2013 11:11:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mario http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-286117 Mario Fri, 26 Aug 2011 23:00:44 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-286117 <p>So here is what I think most likely has happened. The husband might have been of the controlling nature. The earlier incident of taking away her passport and documents confirms his nature. The wife must have threatened him that she will go back to India or something. Being a controlling person that he is, he might have taken her wife's threat as an insult. I think her brother came to California so that he could offer her some kind of protection against her husband. Naturally the husband did not feel good about someone else meddling in his internal affairs.His final act of murders was completely pre-meditated. He bought the guns before his brother-in-law arrived. It is simply amazing how someone could get so maniacal and so controlling that he would kill his own innocent children. The children look so beautiful. That really hurts. I have seen this with so many Indian fathers. Always serious, always lacking sense of humor. Look at the pictures. How serious he is. Can't even show a smile. I have been following this story closely and I needed a closure because of the hurt this story has caused me.</p> So here is what I think most likely has happened. The husband might have been of the controlling nature. The earlier incident of taking away her passport and documents confirms his nature. The wife must have threatened him that she will go back to India or something. Being a controlling person that he is, he might have taken her wife’s threat as an insult. I think her brother came to California so that he could offer her some kind of protection against her husband. Naturally the husband did not feel good about someone else meddling in his internal affairs.His final act of murders was completely pre-meditated. He bought the guns before his brother-in-law arrived. It is simply amazing how someone could get so maniacal and so controlling that he would kill his own innocent children. The children look so beautiful. That really hurts. I have seen this with so many Indian fathers. Always serious, always lacking sense of humor. Look at the pictures. How serious he is. Can’t even show a smile. I have been following this story closely and I needed a closure because of the hurt this story has caused me.

]]> By: Mario http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-286116 Mario Fri, 26 Aug 2011 22:32:27 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-286116 <p>So here is what I think most likely has happened. The husband might have been of the controlling nature. The earlier incident of taking away her passport and documents confirms his nature. The wife must have threatened him that she will go back to India or something. Being a controlling person that he is, he might have taken her wife's threat as an insult. I think her brother came to California so that he could offer her some kind of protection against her husband. Naturally the husband did not feel good about someone else meddling in his internal affairs.His final act of murders was completely pre-meditated. He bought the guns before his brother-in-law arrived. It is simply amazing how someone could get so maniacal and so controlling that he would kill his own innocent children. The children look so beautiful. That really hurts. I have seen this with so many Indian fathers. Always serious, always lacking sense of humor. Look at the pictures. How serious he is. Can't even show a smile. I have been following this story closely and I needed a closure because of the hurt this story has caused me.</p> So here is what I think most likely has happened. The husband might have been of the controlling nature. The earlier incident of taking away her passport and documents confirms his nature. The wife must have threatened him that she will go back to India or something. Being a controlling person that he is, he might have taken her wife’s threat as an insult. I think her brother came to California so that he could offer her some kind of protection against her husband. Naturally the husband did not feel good about someone else meddling in his internal affairs.His final act of murders was completely pre-meditated. He bought the guns before his brother-in-law arrived. It is simply amazing how someone could get so maniacal and so controlling that he would kill his own innocent children. The children look so beautiful. That really hurts. I have seen this with so many Indian fathers. Always serious, always lacking sense of humor. Look at the pictures. How serious he is. Can’t even show a smile. I have been following this story closely and I needed a closure because of the hurt this story has caused me.

]]> By: nothing_special http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-281647 nothing_special Thu, 24 Feb 2011 08:40:10 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-281647 <p>There must exist a reason for every domestic violence. If the victim is sure about the reason, then he/she can take appropriate action depending on his/her judgment on the reason(s). Appropriate action can be divorce if the reasons are incorrigible and unpreventable - no matter who is right or wrong. I think one can get good advice and techniques from some organizations (if exist) to fix the issues first before going straight into filing divorce petition.</p> There must exist a reason for every domestic violence. If the victim is sure about the reason, then he/she can take appropriate action depending on his/her judgment on the reason(s). Appropriate action can be divorce if the reasons are incorrigible and unpreventable – no matter who is right or wrong. I think one can get good advice and techniques from some organizations (if exist) to fix the issues first before going straight into filing divorce petition.

]]> By: Priya http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-246239 Priya Sun, 16 Aug 2009 21:36:21 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-246239 <p>Thanks Raj@89 for the update. I wonder how can the police close a case like this with so many people killed and no motive declared. One of the doctor has evinced doubt whether brain tumor can be the reason for loss of control. Hard to believe that he was hiding his medical condition from his wife. Not convincing whether loss of privacy alone can be a reason for closing the case so abruptly.</p> Thanks Raj@89 for the update. I wonder how can the police close a case like this with so many people killed and no motive declared. One of the doctor has evinced doubt whether brain tumor can be the reason for loss of control. Hard to believe that he was hiding his medical condition from his wife. Not convincing whether loss of privacy alone can be a reason for closing the case so abruptly.

]]> By: Raj http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-246231 Raj Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:53:19 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-246231 <p>updated news about this http://www.mercurynews.com/ci_12876167?IADID=Search-www.mercurynews.com-www.mercurynews.com</p> updated news about this http://www.mercurynews.com/ci_12876167?IADID=Search-www.mercurynews.com-www.mercurynews.com

]]> By: mercury http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-237270 mercury Sun, 12 Apr 2009 23:27:42 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-237270 <p>There appears to be a lot of speculation in this forum about causes for this horrible killing, However, the whole thing disappeared off the national media radar after the 1st day. (Although I'm not sure if this a good or a bad thing, given the usually excessive media coverage of such events.)</p> There appears to be a lot of speculation in this forum about causes for this horrible killing, However, the whole thing disappeared off the national media radar after the 1st day. (Although I’m not sure if this a good or a bad thing, given the usually excessive media coverage of such events.)

]]> By: asdf http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-237264 asdf Sun, 12 Apr 2009 22:08:54 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-237264 <p>But no shred of evidence in this case that supports the domestic abuse theory. The snippets in the news certainly point to mental health issues ... paranoia etc. His relatives back in India have mentioned him saying that he feels his life is in danger. Maybe a shrink would have helped.</p> But no shred of evidence in this case that supports the domestic abuse theory. The snippets in the news certainly point to mental health issues … paranoia etc. His relatives back in India have mentioned him saying that he feels his life is in danger. Maybe a shrink would have helped.

]]> By: Manasi http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-237263 Manasi Sun, 12 Apr 2009 21:58:34 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-237263 <p>This incident will hopefully serve as as a final reminder to all the men/women who live day in and day out in situations of domestic abuse. Though i am not playing the devil's advocate here but I am surprised how almost everybody commenting here has taken the woman's side but no one can possibly understand what the man must go through (despite his so called derangement) before he picks a gun and kills adults and innocent children. What has happened behind the closed doors and minds of those now dead and gone. the lives lost can't be brought back but i am hoping this incident will serve as THE FINAL REMINDER to those currently living in domestic abuse (or maybe those stepping into future possible domestic abuse) that IT MUST BE STOPPED before it gets out of hand. Communicate or else walk-out before it is too late.</p> This incident will hopefully serve as as a final reminder to all the men/women who live day in and day out in situations of domestic abuse. Though i am not playing the devil’s advocate here but I am surprised how almost everybody commenting here has taken the woman’s side but no one can possibly understand what the man must go through (despite his so called derangement) before he picks a gun and kills adults and innocent children. What has happened behind the closed doors and minds of those now dead and gone. the lives lost can’t be brought back but i am hoping this incident will serve as THE FINAL REMINDER to those currently living in domestic abuse (or maybe those stepping into future possible domestic abuse) that IT MUST BE STOPPED before it gets out of hand. Communicate or else walk-out before it is too late.

]]> By: Ritu http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-237253 Ritu Sun, 12 Apr 2009 17:41:02 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-237253 <p>911 tape conversation of indian lady helping the shot victim... http://www.mercurynewsphoto.com/2009/04/santaclara_911tape040909.mp3 related story... http://www.mercurynews.com/topstories/ci_12118391</p> 911 tape conversation of indian lady helping the shot victim… http://www.mercurynewsphoto.com/2009/04/santaclara_911tape040909.mp3 related story… http://www.mercurynews.com/topstories/ci_12118391

]]> By: Sepiaaahhh http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2009/03/31/murdersuicide_i_1/comment-page-2/#comment-237097 Sepiaaahhh Thu, 09 Apr 2009 20:13:46 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5714#comment-237097 <p>Truthseeker, this comment was posted by you, right?</p> <blockquote>The only thing that these associations for domestic violence do is separate the husband and wife..easy..that solves the problem for sure temporarily. Its like amputate the leg if you have a minor knee pain. They offer no solution other than that..or they might educate the woman about her rights which will then make her married life more like a relationship between a client and his lawyer rather than a husband and wife. So, the person in question SHE has to stand and find solution to herself rather than having strangers enter her personal life trying to symphathize and solutionize with half-baked information, prejudicial outlook and pseudo-intellectualism.</blockquote> <p>So.... that means we are talking about the same thing - domestic violence and shelters for it.</p> Truthseeker, this comment was posted by you, right?

The only thing that these associations for domestic violence do is separate the husband and wife..easy..that solves the problem for sure temporarily. Its like amputate the leg if you have a minor knee pain. They offer no solution other than that..or they might educate the woman about her rights which will then make her married life more like a relationship between a client and his lawyer rather than a husband and wife. So, the person in question SHE has to stand and find solution to herself rather than having strangers enter her personal life trying to symphathize and solutionize with half-baked information, prejudicial outlook and pseudo-intellectualism.

So…. that means we are talking about the same thing – domestic violence and shelters for it.

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