Comments on: When I watch Indian movies…oh, wait. I don’t.

By: dipurb

dipurb — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 21:03:43 +0000

in conversations this author is also the one who feels the need to defend on the of side of arranged marriages- and subtly explains the respectful, familial importance, etc nuances of arranged marriages and even how (SHOCK) often, they work out.

By: dipuRB

dipuRB — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:53:20 +0000

I think it’s a first or second generation-er who grew up with knowing the popular “Indian movies” at home, like Darr, Baazigar, all that 90′s stuff, but wasn’t into it…has fairly liberal parents (they drink, have more non-desi friends than desi (not including family), etc.) except when it comes to the issue of marriage. Although the child knows they are loved and whomever they fall in love with would be accepted…the pressure increases as one grows older and there is also a leaning (almost yearning) towards the nostalgia of tradition and duty…hence this person started “watching Indian movies” again, and is not one hip to the Bollywood scene. Kind of similar to gaining back your culture discussion on the last post about Dating Brown- sorry Anna I would post a link but feeling lazy.

By: ak

ak — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 03:55:21 +0000

this reminds me of when i was living in london and there was a very serious issue of desis in the uk taking their daughters on holiday to s. asia and forcibly marrying them off in an arranged marriage – it was such an epidemic and quite sad. on the other hand, this could totally be written by a non-desi – what kind of self-respecting bollywood-watching brown person chooses to use ‘main character’ over ‘hero’?!

post secret reminds me of that feature on craigslist – the one where people write in about somebody they had a missed ‘moment’ with.

By: hmmm

hmmm — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 02:50:38 +0000

"I hate the word Bollywood..it implies we came after Hollywood.."

Just about every moviemaking place came after. In fact Hollywood came after New York, or was it New Jersey, but that's another story. Thomas Edison had something to do with it. If you mean the word "Bollywood" sounds like a cheap imitation instead of being its own thing, you're right. Desi movies, regardless of where in India they are made, are indeed uniquely Indian and not second to "Hollywood" or any place else. Bollywood evokes a certain style but it's not the only Indian style of filmmaking.

By: Wanderer

Wanderer — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 19:52:43 +0000

Why a Non Desi? I hate the word Bollywood..it implies we came after Hollywood..These are Indian films, more particularily Hindustanni ( They are not pure Hindi, but a combo of Hindi-Urdu-Punjabi-Gujarati) or merely Bombay Film Industry..

Interesting way to revel all though..

By: Haldiram

Haldiram — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:36:19 +0000

Why all the hating on PostSecret? I wouldn’t be so quick to assume they are made up. I’ve been to their live events, and known people who have sent postcards in…it means a lot to people. Just because it’s something you would never do (for whatever reason), don’t assume everyone else is just as cynical about it, or dishonest. That site has saved lives.

By: Pravin

Pravin — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 10:54:49 +0000

When I watch Indian movies, I pray that…. the freaking movie self destructs midway. Most of them are unwatchable to me other than small clips to make fun of them. It’s like being sentenced to watch Boy Bands and Britney Spears act in movies. And each song sequence has a hero on steroids who competes with his backup dancers as to who can gyrate faster.

By: True Confessions

True Confessions — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 03:26:23 +0000

45 Â· onparkstreet said

*I think a bunch of those post secrets are made up. People never follow the rules.

Bingo. This is 2009. Who would send hand-written postcards to a blog? Plus, nobody writes like that anyway: the style is not natural at all, it's all totally made up. A sort of True Confessions for the Internet Age, written by a blogger with a lame imagination.

By: AK

AK — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 03:11:30 +0000

It sounds like a non-desi who's tired of the dating world, and fantasizes about the non-commitmentphobe guys in Indian movies, because she seems to keep running into the "He's Just Not That Into You" types.

I find it hilarious that there are some parents who let their young (under 13) kids watch Hindi movies but won't let them watch Hollywood movies because they have too much sex and violence....Imagine having to explain that to a young kid.

That's bad, but I think I might have had it worse. Imagine the actress doing "item girl numbers", usually involving floor-humping, being your cousin.

No white American would think of the darker skinned, larger moustacheod movie heroes of the South when they think of Bollywood, even though they may be bigger stars or earn more.

I think the person who reposted this video does.

By: kulvir

kulvir — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 02:22:31 +0000

27Â·Suki Dillon said

It was the movie where the poor guy fell in love with the rich girl and and the girl father didn't approve. So he sent 8 of his thugs after the poor guy, but the poor guy was able to beat them all up by himself and the girl father at the end of the movie was ok with the relationship after he saw how much the poor guy loved his daughter. Does anybody know what movie that was.

That sounds like almost every Bollywood movie ever made.

I find it hilarious that there are some parents who let their young (under 13) kids watch Hindi movies but won't let them watch Hollywood movies because they have too much sex and violence. Hindi movies are just as violent as Hollywood movies. I wonder if those parents cover their kids eyes whenever there's violence or nudity in a Hindi movie. When I was about 10, I saw a bit of a Hindi movie my mom was watching; one of the scenes had showed the villain breaking into the heroine's room, pushing her on the bed, and the screen fades while she screams. Imagine having to explain that to a young kid.