As for your “Ooooh, look at me, I don’t look Indian…people think I look white! Isn’t that weird? Did you notice how I said that I don’t look like the rest of you common darkies? I mean, that’s weird, right? And I’m totally not fishing for compliments or trying to let you all know that I’m fair and thus, hot.” Your use of the word “weird” as a fig leaf is not effective. Why even throw this bullshit description of yourself in? On the internet, no one can tell you’re a dog. Or that you look “Italian”, you fair flower– and no one gives a shit.

If you’re only attracted to brown guys, but you’re always mean to them, then you have issues. Either you’re a bitch or…amazingly immature. Being mean to people you secretly like is something second-graders do. Isn’t that weird, and by weird I mean LAME? If you’re aware of this tendency of yours to act stupid, super-mean and “superior” (your words, not mine), why wouldn’t you work on THAT instead of just babbling about it online? Unless you dig being alone. Which is fine, you shouldn’t inflict your “weirdness” on normal people, no matter what color.

If at 23, it’s becoming patently obvious that you’ll be alone forever, then perhaps you ARE self-aware…and just lazy. Or so pleased with yourself that you won’t bother changing patently dysfunctional things about your behavior. Or maybe you dig solitude. Whatever. I think “asshole” works, too. No, you don’t owe us any explanations…but spare us your bullshit in the first place, and there won’t be anything which needs explaining.

i actually agree with glass houses and i’m a girl (of the same age group), but maybe not as harshly. as they say in AA, the first step to finding a solution is acknowledging that you have a problem. if you know that you treat white vs. brown guys differently, why don’t you just… change your behavior? especially since it’s the brown ones you’re attracted to! unless you’re trying some hard-to-get strategy, but it must not be working if you’re saying that you’re the weirdest indian girl ever. it sucks that you were stalked (seriously stalked? or just a malfunctioned dude following you around in a bar? i don’t mean to doubt you, stalking is a serious issue, but that’s just the thing, it gets thrown around so lightly), but a) 30s is kind of old but not ‘totally old’ and b) if it made you have problems with guys, why does it only cause problems with brown guys but not with white guys? and honestly, if you write something like that on the internet, where you acknowledge that you’re the ‘weirdest indian girl ever,’ then you do owe an explanation rather than just exclaiming, ‘you don’t know me!’ and people will get personal. just don’t take it so seriously.

Its just jatt’s being jatt’s. What more can you say about the way they behave. The funny thing is that when ever I go to a punjabi wedding, I notice I never see any punjabi women at the bar. Yet there will be a token 20 something white or asian female and when she goes to get a drink, a bunch of middle aged punjabi jatt guys will all surround her start talking to her. But if some punjabi girl was to go to get a drunk, I don’t think they would behave the same way.

One thing that I always found funny is when you go to downtown Vancouver on a Friday or Saturday night on Granville St where most of the bars are is. That the punjabi girls are not so innocent and by closing time many are drunk just like those so called slutty girls of other races and they even dress the same way. But when alot of these girls leave the house they always tell there parents that they are going to study and spend the night at there parents house. Yet when they are at punjabi weddings they have to behave while there brothers can make drunk fools of themselves and nobody cares, yet if punjabi girls behave the same way its the end of the world.

glass houses: Ouch! I am not either! And I think you’re totally abusive; like get a grip because you don’t even know me, and my problems with boys. Clearly you’re a guy (and an insensitive one at that). I mean honestly, I shouldn’t have to explain myself here, but I’ve had some problems in the past: once I had this brown dude (who was totally old, like in his 30s at least) stalking me, so I dunno maybe that’s why I’m pretty messed up about boys…but really I didn’t owe you any explanation but I’m not an asshole at all. I’m sorry I had to get so personal but you’re comment was pretty personal too.

The sad thing is that these people own families are so screwed up. One time couple of years ago, there was this guy who one grandson been killed in the past year who was a gang thug, and another grandson was involved in gang shooting. Yet when he saw my sister, he started talking to her about he she was a bad person for not marrying a jatt boy. The old guy was those uneducated punjabi types who been in Canada for more then 20 years and yet had no effort to learn English and was stuck with his old pind way of thinking.

frankly Rayyan if you are self aware enough to know this and yet STILL act badly then honey you’re just an asshole and you deserve to be alone…change immediately!

interesting. what doyou mean by “nice to white boys” maybe a little clarification would help.