It’s one thing to criticize someone by saying they may not be model material or you don’t find them attractive or you don’t understand the hype behind them or discuss how they are pretty or not compared to other people’s standards till we turn blue in the face etc. But to describe your dislike with such vitriolic adjectives is pathetic. Can’t you describe your disagreements with the standards without resorting to putting down any groups of women?

Would it have hurt to simply say “I’m XYZ and I personally don’t think XYZ women are attractive compared to ABC women.” You are perfectly entitled to your opinion. All the detailed description of why is just plain rude!

http://www.bryanboy.com/bryanboy_le_superstar_fab/2009/03/lakshmi-menon-in-dolce-gabbana-for-dazed-confused-april-2009.html

82 · shivani said

This blog seems to be dominated by south-Indians or at least American-Indians of South-Indian origin. That explains the north Indian bashing I guess.

Shivani, this blog is not dominated by anyone besides the curious. Three of this blog’s five founders are of North Indian descent. Also, you may be the first person ever to assert that South Indian girls are taller than their Northern counterparts.

Is that how you console yourself, Melbourne Desi?

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I shouldn’t even have to type this, but certain comments (I think “douchey shit” characterizes them well) on this thread are just plain mean. None of us is perfect. We each have hair somewhere we’d prefer we didn’t, we’re too-petite, big-boned, pudgy, scrawny, blemished, frizzy, our split ends have split ends, etc. As we blithely dismiss thousands, if not millions for having noses or shoulders which don’t appeal, bear in mind that what turns you off may just thrill another, and so to each their own. What would it feel like if someone else left similar comments, but the way they defined “ugly” described you? That would suck.

We’re more than our noses, hips, hair and lips. Having said all that, I am now going to gloat that this model is Malayalee. I’m glad we posted about her. Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself, (I am large, I contain multitudes.)

Hmmm, I don’t think that ALL Europeans find me attractive. I just think there’s a broader range of ideas about what is considered attractive in places where a) the population is homogeneous and doesn’t really include you, hence, the exotic factor, and b) the population is heterogeneous and there’s a multiplicity of ideas about what constitutes beauty. In urban areas of Europe (and the U.S.) I didn’t think there was necessarily a fixed concept of beauty. Granted, there are certain overarching cultural precepts that determine what’s considered beautiful (the Heidi Klums and Giselle Bundchens of the world), but this doesn’t always synch up with personal preferences, which often diverge from what is considered palatable in the media.

On my most recent visit to India, a couple people asked me if I was an actress, which was bizarrrrre, as I couldn’t be further from the Bollywood/Kollywood/Tollywood/Mollywood ideal. If I get looked at in India, however, I think it’s more because I’m perceived as “westernized” (even when I don’t try to be, I’m so goddamn transparent) as opposed to attractive. It doesn’t really offend me…not my target audience, anyway. My qualm: I just wish that families didn’t willfully pass on vitriolic cultural sentiments about beauty to their kids.

Many times I find that Punjabi women, especially Sikhnis, are far too masculine looking with broad shoulders, long noses and big faces.

I hear douchey shit like this ALL THE TIME from Indian people, even the most progressive I’m-more-first-generation-than-you types, without the slightest bit of reservation. It’s largely why I don’t associate with too many of them.

so do I. since we are talking germany in this post “das fremde ist entspannend” explains many things.

Looks are subjective. europeans find you attractive – desis in india dont. Nothing wrong with that – it is just a personal preference.

All my desis circle of friends perceive themselves as HOT, myself included.

rofl. Taz, you are many things but hot – nope you are not. Not by a long shot. Like most of us you are a “typical” desi – Not that there is anything wrong with it.

Many desi women of the large hooked nose and hairy skin variety look too manly to be attractive.

we must introduce waxing and threading to the vestern vorld. we have been far too complacent after disseminating zero.