Comments on: Gather ye rosebuds, while ye may… http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/ All that flavorful brownness in one savory packet Sat, 30 Nov 2013 11:11:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: san http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206600 san Thu, 19 Jun 2008 07:30:00 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206600 <p>Nice post, but now a dissipated memory. Italo Calvino says somewhere that memories, when written down, are irrecoverably lost. Maybe that's what you wanted, not sure.</p> <p>I suggest you stop scattering away your talent on blogs and go live for seven years in Kumili (the closest Mallu equivalent of Kalimpong) and pour everything into a book.</p> <p>I also suggest you try reading some of the Malayalam authors, starting with Uroob. There is a lot there that reflects your kind of writing, and what you want to say. Would deepen your writing a lot more, kinda like what Pushkin did for Nabokov. I also recommend Ada or Ardour.</p> Nice post, but now a dissipated memory. Italo Calvino says somewhere that memories, when written down, are irrecoverably lost. Maybe that’s what you wanted, not sure.

I suggest you stop scattering away your talent on blogs and go live for seven years in Kumili (the closest Mallu equivalent of Kalimpong) and pour everything into a book.

I also suggest you try reading some of the Malayalam authors, starting with Uroob. There is a lot there that reflects your kind of writing, and what you want to say. Would deepen your writing a lot more, kinda like what Pushkin did for Nabokov. I also recommend Ada or Ardour.

]]> By: SM Intern http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206564 SM Intern Thu, 19 Jun 2008 02:39:17 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206564 <p><i>30 · <b>Meena</b> <a href="http://www.sepiamutiny.com/sepia/archives/005252.html#comment206544">said</a></i></p> <blockquote>Wait...why did my comment about the creepy post #28 get deleted?</blockquote> <p>We generally delete things which ask us to moderate/direct us to comments which need to be removed, especially since deleting the offending comment tends to change the numbering of everything. Nothing personal.</p> 30 · Meena said

Wait…why did my comment about the creepy post #28 get deleted?

We generally delete things which ask us to moderate/direct us to comments which need to be removed, especially since deleting the offending comment tends to change the numbering of everything. Nothing personal.

]]> By: Meena http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206544 Meena Wed, 18 Jun 2008 22:29:23 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206544 <p>Wait...why did my comment about the creepy post #28 get deleted?</p> Wait…why did my comment about the creepy post #28 get deleted?

]]> By: Binoy http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206359 Binoy Tue, 17 Jun 2008 19:19:28 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206359 <p>Great post Anna, its so great to hear the articulation of your feelings towards your father...I only hope and pray that my now 13 month old daughter will have the level of adoration for me as you do for your father.</p> Great post Anna, its so great to hear the articulation of your feelings towards your father…I only hope and pray that my now 13 month old daughter will have the level of adoration for me as you do for your father.

]]> By: bp http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206356 bp Tue, 17 Jun 2008 19:02:58 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206356 <p>Anna,</p> <p>Very touching post. I have a question if you do not mind. What was the approach your father used when he had to discipline you as a child ? I would like to know this from you who has such great love for him. I have a 3 year old and sometimes I feel like giving her a bit of spank ...half the times because I just feel like doing it...and half the time because I think I need to do that for her to know right from wrong when she comes across stubborn. While I am resisting the former 90% of the time, I wonder about the latter. I guess there is this stereotype of desis wanting to discipline vs what others do...but want to look at this from a big picture perspective.</p> <p>Regards.</p> Anna,

Very touching post. I have a question if you do not mind. What was the approach your father used when he had to discipline you as a child ? I would like to know this from you who has such great love for him. I have a 3 year old and sometimes I feel like giving her a bit of spank …half the times because I just feel like doing it…and half the time because I think I need to do that for her to know right from wrong when she comes across stubborn. While I am resisting the former 90% of the time, I wonder about the latter. I guess there is this stereotype of desis wanting to discipline vs what others do…but want to look at this from a big picture perspective.

Regards.

]]> By: ak http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206276 ak Mon, 16 Jun 2008 20:10:54 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206276 <p>ANNA, I am constantly amazed that despite the heartache that followed your father's death, you still find the strength to share your love for him, and so poignantly, no less. It takes a special type of person to do that - to not only find sorrow and joy when thinking about someone so close who has passed away, but to be able to convey and share those sentiments in such a public setting. Thank you.</p> ANNA, I am constantly amazed that despite the heartache that followed your father’s death, you still find the strength to share your love for him, and so poignantly, no less. It takes a special type of person to do that – to not only find sorrow and joy when thinking about someone so close who has passed away, but to be able to convey and share those sentiments in such a public setting. Thank you.

]]> By: zuni http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206269 zuni Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:32:44 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206269 <p>Anna, that was too beautiful. I bought a video camera yesterday: I would like to capture some moments, voices, laughter, gentle admonitions from my parents when I go to India next time. But I don't know whether I'll be ever able to look at those pictures/videos. It is strange, but I can't bring myself to look at pictures of my near and dear ones ever since I left India; it gives me heartaches. I would rather talk to them on the phone and see them in my mind's eye rather than put up pictures as is common in US. Maybe I am a little weird, or does anyone else have the same problem ?</p> Anna, that was too beautiful. I bought a video camera yesterday: I would like to capture some moments, voices, laughter, gentle admonitions from my parents when I go to India next time. But I don’t know whether I’ll be ever able to look at those pictures/videos. It is strange, but I can’t bring myself to look at pictures of my near and dear ones ever since I left India; it gives me heartaches. I would rather talk to them on the phone and see them in my mind’s eye rather than put up pictures as is common in US. Maybe I am a little weird, or does anyone else have the same problem ?

]]> By: campmuir http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206237 campmuir Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:51:05 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206237 <p>anna-</p> <p>you've touched my heart...and painted a wonderful picture of your dad. my thoughts are with you. as we've discussed before, a measure of time is meaningless when one has lost someone - we live with the memories and loss every day.</p> anna-

you’ve touched my heart…and painted a wonderful picture of your dad. my thoughts are with you. as we’ve discussed before, a measure of time is meaningless when one has lost someone – we live with the memories and loss every day.

]]> By: ekta http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206235 ekta Mon, 16 Jun 2008 10:10:44 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206235 <p><em>hugs</em></p> hugs

]]> By: sandhya http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2008/06/15/gather_ye_roseb_1/comment-page-1/#comment-206220 sandhya Mon, 16 Jun 2008 04:33:52 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=5252#comment-206220 <p>A - Thanks for this poignant tribute to your dad. It has been 7 years since I lost my own father. I've often thought about how the passage of time carries so much of both what was and what could have been. This really resonated with me:</p> <blockquote>Ten years is such a very long time. Junior high, high school and college all fit within ten years. I could have left elementary school and emerged with a bachelor's degree, in the time that you have been gone.</blockquote> <p>Doesn't writing about it make you remember so much more? <a href="http://www.sandhyanankani.com/wordpress/?p=208">It does for me.</a></p> A – Thanks for this poignant tribute to your dad. It has been 7 years since I lost my own father. I’ve often thought about how the passage of time carries so much of both what was and what could have been. This really resonated with me:

Ten years is such a very long time. Junior high, high school and college all fit within ten years. I could have left elementary school and emerged with a bachelor’s degree, in the time that you have been gone.

Doesn’t writing about it make you remember so much more? It does for me.

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