Comments on: Pak Attack

By: geoff

geoff — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 18:02:25 +0000

he lives down the street from me, his real name is sherazad, his little bro arman is my friend

By: Asha's Dad

Asha's Dad — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 04:51:45 +0000

Late reply I know. Work very busy.

Richardson Texas is a suburb just outside of Dallas with a large Indian and Pakistani population and some good restaurants by the way. Shiska-Bobs (get it!!), Afrah, and Jasmine's. The church I attend is in Richardson as well.

I assumed Dallas and thought Texas. I thought we were the only state that stole names from other places (i.e Paris, TX, Italy, TX). There's even an India, Texas just south of the Dallas VA hospital. It's not very big though only a couple of houses and no major buildings.

By: avishkar

avishkar — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 05:42:41 +0000

i think more people are paying attention to his sister than him

oh and she is quite the cutey btw

By: SM Intern

SM Intern — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 10:33:44 +0000

What part of “enough about the sister” did you not grasp? One more comment about the sibling and this thread will be shut down.

By: absolutgcs

absolutgcs — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 09:48:07 +0000

random saturday night aside, but pak attack’s sister? wow.

By: SM Intern

SM Intern — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 13:08:21 +0000

I'd say that his sister is okay looking in the face. From the looks of her on video she has the body of a 12 year old boy though and that's kinda disappointing.

How are your disparaging remarks regarding his sister's looks relevant to the discussion? Keep your sexist, disrespectful words to yourself.

The vague "she's hot" thing upthread was bad enough, evaluating her body and insulting her crossed the line. Enough about the sister.

By: Rizwan

Rizwan — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 11:21:27 +0000

I’d say that his sister is okay looking in the face. From the looks of her on video she has the body of a 12 year old boy though and that’s kinda disappointing. I’m glad I got to finally watch the videos though and see what all the hype is about.

By: ak

ak — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 17:07:48 +0000

amitabh, it’s definitely interesting to see the changing trends, esp. in desi cities. i think one good thing is to ingrain in kids that there is some notion of respect for elders – even for the sibling that was only born 12 or 18 months ahead of you – so that this remains with them to some extent, even if they choose to later lessen its degree. when i was younger, i always used to call my sister akka (didi) but stopped when i realised that not only was my younger brother not calling me that, but that my parents didn’t even expect it of him! (yes, middle children put up with a lot ) even to this day, my parents maintain a sort of reverence for my sister as the eldest sibling. it is both frustrating and nice. my sister maintains her ‘elder’ status for the bossy things, but doesn’t take that role seriously when it comes to other roles, like advise, which i much would have preferred; if that was the case, i would have no problem maintaining the elder-younger sibling divide. on the other hand, my younger brother, who makes fun of me to no end and has dispelled with most formalities, still relies on me for advise, which i gladly dispense. so the tradition still presents itself to varying degrees. btw, cute story about the kids.

By: Amitabh

Amitabh — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 16:25:28 +0000

ak, excellent points. It’s hard to disagree. And you’re right, people in India themselves show such a wide variety of different behaviors when it comes to this stuff. Even in India they have to deal with finding a balance between tradition and the ever-stronger western influence. Rich kids in Mumbai are probably some of the most liberal people I’ve ever seen. But I still cringe when I see a younger sibling cuss out an older one. And one very nice thing I witnessed once…I was in one of those desi grocery stores in NJ…there was this young mom, with two small kids, a girl of around 5, and a boy of around 3. The girl kept trying to say something to her little brother, but he wasn’t listening, he was preoccupied with something in the store. The girl kept trying to get his attention without success…the mom, who herself was mostly focused on her shopping, distractedly said to the boy ‘didi kuch bol rahi hai, suno’. Which means ‘your (older) sister is saying something, listen to her’. I thought that was very desi, and very nice.

By: ak

ak — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 16:04:18 +0000

amitabh, i hear you. but the reason (partly) why i said it’s not gora-fied is because a lot of people in the west do not do that either. i have plenty of western friends who are not that comfortable with their siblings when it comes to issues like this. on the other hand, i have one cousin in india – he’s older than me, and somewhat conservative guy, or so i thought. but once he realised that i’m generally liberal and willing to discuss almost anything, he himself did away with the elder brother-younger sister formalities, and in many ways, the relationship sort of turned – he asks me for advise, i scold him for mistakes etc. but it’s one of the best relationships i have, precisely because we are so frank. as for respect for elder siblings, it’s a two-way street : one should live up to that role, or is not really worthy of it. plus, if it’s super formal, it limits a lot of dicussion and honesty in the relationship. save for a few cousins and one younger brother, i am always the youngest in my family, and it’s very frustrating that my family still thinks of me as a kid, even when i am almost 30. and back to the original point, i am not sure it’s necessarily an east-west thing – looking at my relatives in madras/TN, i see plenty of sibling relationships that are casual and do not uphold certain rigidities. i even see that amongst generational relationships. i guess at some point, they decided that this is what works for them, regardless of the prevailing traditions.