going point about why shouldn’t the father be around more… without having gone through child-raising myself, it seems like very a big challenge to raise a family that’s really connected to each other, without at least one parent dedicating him or herself full time to it – at least when there are multiple children involved and they are young. almost all dual career families i see either had a nanny or other caregiver (a.k.a. naniji/dadiji – grandparent) around almost full time to take care of the kids, so to speak. and the kids raised by a non-parent have conflicted emotions about whether they feel closer to that caregiver or the person who’s genetic material they’re actually carrying around.

the onus has traditionally been on the mother to stay at home… and statistically speaking more women are more open to making career sacrifices in order to have greater involvement with their families. a lot more men are as well, and there are all sorts of blends coming up with how parents are doing re: work-life balance, etc. but it’s still skewed to the female half.

perhaps this is post is dead so hopefully this topic will come up another time. i still think a lot of what HMF and Amitabh et al are saying prenup prenup prenup is kinda weird. i’ve never heard of any indian person openly getting one! do you think priya sachdev and vikram chatwal did? i can’t think of other desi examples where one spouse has much more than the other… but i just haven’t heard of it, even among really, really financially successful family and friends who married much less successful spouses. i don’t even know who’s brought it up…

MC Hammer –> Hammer

and

Legion of Doom –> LOD

as everyone here has offered congrats, I will do the same. although, this announcement seems to correlate with your new monicker JOAT instead of the full expansion. Wedding planning doesn’t leave you that much time to type out the full name I take it. Either that or you’ve chosen the well traveled path many entertainers have in the past:

New Kids on the Block = NKOTB Puff Daddy = P diddy Prince = the symbol thing

Correct. Three strikes maketh a troll. Banned and deleted.

JOAT, husband is clearly associated with marriage, and while i might have to go through with a marriage in form, i am uncomfortable that i be called a wife, or my partner a husband, since all of these link back to notions associated with marriage. if there were no social connotations associated, that’s fine. but until now, partner is the only word that comes closes to describing what sort of relationship i want. though i can see this becoming a problem – if we do get married by law, sometimes i will have to refer to him as my husband, and i can see myself doing that rather begrudgingly and sarcastically

HMF, glad it is clear. but it’s also not – i see your point. this thread has made it very clear what i have in store if/when i have that committed relationship. as for your notion of marriage – i would agree somewhat. and i have nothing against it – it just irritates me that other forms are not given the same respect, or even recognition.