i guess you could be married, go to india. sit through the ceremony. b*ng the grl, leave the country, return to family life.

The dowry he will get from simply marrying her is WHOLE SHIP LOADS more than the tiny boat load he had to spend.

Only if you’re also judging their value and worth as a person. I actually don’t think a cosmo would be a “make it or break it” moment, you know? I do think it reveals something about someone’s preferences (literally, their taste), but that doesn’t necessarily matter, either.

i agree. i was into cosmos towards the end of my college years (and only because ‘segueway sam’ from conan was drinking one) but literally was forced to choose another drink in some unforeseen circumstances. i chose g&t and i haven’t been happier. though, these days my dad is trying to push me towards the whiskey/scotch genre, but i’m a bit resistant. but sometimes i feel guilty – isn’t it just snobby to evaluate people based on their drink choices?

Totally.

But, as a non-Indian woman, and also as a non-Indian citizen, my experience was that most of my landlords (now that I think about it – all of them), did try to take on a kind of “parental” and “protective” role towards me, maybe not as much as they would if I was an Indian female citizen, but probably close to it.

This was something I failed to navigate properly. When I first resided there, I actually welcomed that, because I felt as a foreigner it would be beneficial for me to have some sort of “protective unit”, support system, people who have my back. What happened though is that when I responded favorably to their protectionism, I did not know that that would be opening a Pandora’s box of intrusion into my personal life, even my daily life.

After a few years of “too close for comfort” experiences, I swang the opposite way and sent out “I’m-independent-don’t-get-close-vibes” which managed to give me more space but at the same time alienate myself.

After a few years of that I struck as close to a balance as I could.

Looking back I made alot of mistakes, but I didn’t know what I was doing really because I had never had such kinds of experiences in my life before and there was no one who was able to guide me on these practical matters. I had to figure out how to deal with this all on my own.

we can share sometimes, can’t we?

Can’t we all just get along?

gee thanks, milady, it’s kind of you to notice. y’all deserve mad props too for your thoughtful and hilarious comments, good taste, and toleration of folks’ conceits (such as hard to spell handles)

I read that and shuddered. And, for anyone who thinks it is because I think it is “unmanly” to order a Cosmo, I also disapprove of its consumption among women.

Rawls seems most fair. portmanteau, I like your style, even if I have a really hard time spelling your name.

i vote for rawls, because in all honesty, i will be the single one more times than not. karmic justice – sounds nice and all, but what if there are no g&t prospects upon whom to fall back? catfight – yeah, i can totally take you. bring it on.

tambram, happy to oblige.