I’m at work, and I don’t have PMS, so it’s not me; it’s you! Thanks a LOT, I have to go home now . . .

It was humorous at first…I took it lightly more in a “Oh that Auntie is so cute”…but after a while you beging to feel a little bit of blame behind their questioning. I’m 31 years old and their questions are slightly veiled accusations which really ask, “Why don’t you stop being so picky and get married already!”

So many don’t know how hard it is to really find someone in this world that you connect with, and it’s hurtful (and not to mention rude) to constant probe someone about it. So many of us want to be married, and find ourselves sensitive to the topic.

sumiti, its so funny that you say that! i worked in an orphanage in Mumbai for 3 months and fell in love with the children. since then i’ve wanted to adopt and live in india and do charity work. my parents are openly horrified by this…

my advice? keep trying!

It was with a bit of shock that I read you statement.. >> should we let child abusers off because they were abused as children? Are you equating evil aunties with child abusers? Do you know the things child abusers do? Do you know the kind of emotional and physical scars they leave on their victims? Are you saying that evil auntie statements like “Why did you not get into ivy league?” is on the same plane as leaving cigarette burns on thighs and back?

well clearly you didn’t understand the point i was making. the point was not to equate aunties and child abusers, but rather to understand that just because people are exposed to particular environments, they should not be forgiven for their actions in the future. not a very complicated point and one that the legal system has a firm grasp of. but i’d like to add that i dealt with abuse as a child growing up as well as evil aunties. so yes, i do know the emotional and physical scars victims suffer because i’ve had to deal with them my entire life. if you or others reading this were abused, my intent was not to belittle one’s experience as an abusee but rather to point out that abusers shouldn’t be forgiven simply because they abused themselves. just as aunty’s shouldn’t be forgiven for their behavior because of sexual dissatisfaction or any other explanation M.Nam would like to conjure. pestering aunties aren’t on the same plane as child abusers, not even close, but then that wasn’t my point to begin with. it’s amazing how often M.Nam makes points assuming the background of people (or lack thereof) as a basis to prove your perspective or invalidate others… and fail time after time.

What’s the matter? Did my post strike a raw nerve? Too close home to the truth?

nope, i’m not married nor have i had any problems in the satisfaction department on either side of the relationship. nor have any of my s/o’s exhibited evil aunty behavior… rather your ludicrous man-hating ways inspired my response

>>i’m convinced there’s something missing or malfunctioning upstairs for m.nam Considering that you have not demonstrated any competence in discerning the depravity of child abusers…

yeah… that was clearly my problem. i suppose a relatively simple mind wouldn’t have been able to understand my point. or was there another reason?

And you are well on your way in becoming an evil uncle.