i meant to comment on the anand jon thread, and read this post from 2 years ago. i am happy that you are thriving now.

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Ravi- if you are interested in American law, consult an expert. Don’t ask a victim of a heinous crime if her rapist was prosecuted and if he received a harsher sentence because he used a certain orifice. I hope you were merely unaware of how traumatizing and inappropriate your comment was; if so, now you’re aware.

This was a first-person account of a crime. Please have the sensitivity to remember this and not use this post as a delayed opportunity to debate two-year old comments, discuss Anand Jon or anything else. It is not appropriate.

Still, it took over 2.5 years and 279 comments before this thread took a turn for the worse. That says something, both good and bad about the mutiny.

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This could have happened regardless of getting drunk and being at a party, now you may argue that those two things made it more likely, in any case does that justify that it did? Again you make the distinction on how it is understandable that something heinous as this happens because of the situation one is in… girls get drunk at parties… does that mean that it is understandable if then they get raped? Same for guys? Since you are so keen on picking up on phrases in the writeup .. did you happen to notice the bigger message of the post listed in the title.. instead of picking up on “daddy you were right”? Or perhaps your purpose was to pick and choose and sound important and accuse… dude this happened to a person.. is happening to someone out there as much as we choose to ignore it. Have some respect, and if you can’t spare everyone you picking and choosing and your unwanted accusing.

Byteword, I think we have enough to make a judgement. Sometimes, there is too much living vicariously through your kids. It is not limited to Indians. Look at the white dad who wants his son to become a QB or the mother who forces her kids in child beauty contests or cheerleading squad. I am sorry, but this kind of behavior by the parents is unacceptable in my view. I can only comment on what Anna chooses to share here. I understand the impulse where the parent wants to mold the kid in his own image(which is not to be confused with mere protective instinct). But once your kids out of high school, you have to have enough confidence in the way your raised them up to that point. If you are still hounding your kids in college, that tells me he doesn’t trust the way he raised his kids at some level and whether it can overcome the society peer pressure.