i’m in that situation too. I have no brilliant ideas, but it makes life very difficult for 2 adults, both divorced from other people, who want to marry but have to deal with his family’s threats to exile him. I am happy to raise any children in his religion, but the family will not accept me. I am white anglo and speak hindi, he is overseas born indian but it makes no difference.

Never knew that the average FOB was a cut above the IIT FOB on the ABD screen. You learn something new everyday!

I’m a CBCD who was recently in a long relationship with a white guy (now it’s over). He lived in India with me for a year. Interestingly, my Dad really embraced him. My mother, who was the ‘hip’ one(my parents are divorced), and has dated white men herself, turned into the nightmarish, possessive, domineering Indian parent of legend when she realized the relationship was serious. Her and my relationship has not recovered and I try to communicate with her as little as possible. Unfortunately my ex-boyfriend thought that I ‘chose her over him’ in various circumstances, which put a lot of strain on our relationship. At heart, I do blame her in part for the death of a precious relationship.

To tie this into the BBCD blog, the personal price for ‘standing up for yourself’ can be pretty steep.

Arranged marriages give parents something to do in this last stage of raising their children.

To the guys who bitch about the women who bitch about the process, but go along with it:

You speak as if it would be easy for these women to turn their backs on their families. Would you find it easy?

IMO – In my opinion

Wow, I feel so smart. LOL. (Laugh out Loud)