Comments on: Famous Black-Brown Family http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/ All that flavorful brownness in one savory packet Sat, 30 Nov 2013 11:11:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: ti-vor http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-142107 ti-vor Thu, 07 Jun 2007 14:14:00 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-142107 <pre><code> chili of TLC is half african-american and half guyanese of 1/4 arab and 1/4 east indian origin. </code></pre> chili of TLC is half african-american and half guyanese of 1/4 arab and 1/4 east indian origin. ]]> By: delicious marmite http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44771 delicious marmite Sat, 04 Feb 2006 16:04:06 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44771 <p>I made my mum promise never to get the <a href="http://www.leaf.org/photos/2001/february/Trip%20to%20Hobart/Grandma%20Evans%20and%20Ellie.jpg">grandma</a> <a href="http://www.leaf.org/photos/2001/february/Trip%20to%20Hobart/Grandma%20Evans%20and%20Ellie.jpg">perm</a>, now I should plead with her about the Jocelyn Keyes 'do. :)</p> I made my mum promise never to get the grandma perm, now I should plead with her about the Jocelyn Keyes ‘do. :)

]]> By: gatamala http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44650 gatamala Fri, 03 Feb 2006 19:51:30 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44650 <p>DDancer</p> <blockquote>only way I know to alleviate some of it and start training it to go away is for the couple to be on the same page and present a really united front,</blockquote> <p>SikhBoi</p> <blockquote>The problem is that divorce is a reality, and it changes everything.</blockquote> <p>You are BOTH right on. The (sad) reality is that part of talking about marriage is talking about what the expectations are in the event of divorce or premature death. Whether some of us unbrowns want to admit it or not, our families & what they think/do matter. Families are what they are, but the ultimate responsibility lies on the parents to reconcile any differences (& emphasize similarities).</p> <p>Me personally, I'd like to see more Chocolate Sepia luvin', but I agree with mallumolu...this one is a @#*!in waste!!! What family values, what freedom! Alan Keyes - the right wing Steppin Fetchit...I swear...it comes in all colors....</p> DDancer

only way I know to alleviate some of it and start training it to go away is for the couple to be on the same page and present a really united front,

SikhBoi

The problem is that divorce is a reality, and it changes everything.

You are BOTH right on. The (sad) reality is that part of talking about marriage is talking about what the expectations are in the event of divorce or premature death. Whether some of us unbrowns want to admit it or not, our families & what they think/do matter. Families are what they are, but the ultimate responsibility lies on the parents to reconcile any differences (& emphasize similarities).

Me personally, I’d like to see more Chocolate Sepia luvin’, but I agree with mallumolu…this one is a @#*!in waste!!! What family values, what freedom! Alan Keyes – the right wing Steppin Fetchit…I swear…it comes in all colors….

]]> By: mallumolu http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44640 mallumolu Fri, 03 Feb 2006 18:33:39 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44640 <p>not that jocelyn k is so innocent. opus dei? yoikes!</p> <p>fascinating about maya keyes. so they dropped her from their tab cuz she's a lesbian? a little keyesian economics...?</p> <p>any 411 on the other siblings? (just asking cuz that older brother has some serious chiseled broad shouldered hotness going on...)</p> not that jocelyn k is so innocent. opus dei? yoikes!

fascinating about maya keyes. so they dropped her from their tab cuz she’s a lesbian? a little keyesian economics…?

any 411 on the other siblings? (just asking cuz that older brother has some serious chiseled broad shouldered hotness going on…)

]]> By: mallumolu http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44637 mallumolu Fri, 03 Feb 2006 18:23:47 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44637 <p>sigh. so sad that one of the few prominent black-brown unions is between a desi sister and this dud.</p> <p>where have you gone, <a href="http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1077/is_n12_v48/ai_13275711">jean moutoussamy</a>?</p> sigh. so sad that one of the few prominent black-brown unions is between a desi sister and this dud.

where have you gone, jean moutoussamy?

]]> By: Sikh Böi http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44628 Sikh Böi Fri, 03 Feb 2006 17:52:04 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44628 <p>DD - you're right, but that only works while you stay married. The problem is that divorce is a reality, and it changes everything. The in-law problem I mentioned becomes very serious if you get divorced, and it's not an issue if you marry a Sikh. I don't plan on getting divorced, but if I'm going to have kids with somebody I want to know that they will be well cared for no matter what happens (my untimely demise, an unfortunate divorce, etc.)</p> DD – you’re right, but that only works while you stay married. The problem is that divorce is a reality, and it changes everything. The in-law problem I mentioned becomes very serious if you get divorced, and it’s not an issue if you marry a Sikh. I don’t plan on getting divorced, but if I’m going to have kids with somebody I want to know that they will be well cared for no matter what happens (my untimely demise, an unfortunate divorce, etc.)

]]> By: DesiDancer http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44626 DesiDancer Fri, 03 Feb 2006 17:45:47 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44626 <p>You know, there will always be challenges and interferences and the ping-ponging between "your" family and "mine"... the only way I know to alleviate some of it and start training it to go away is for the couple to be on the same page and present a really united front, so to speak. I don't care if it's my mom or his mom, if it's not in line with US and OUR family, you'll get stonewalled. OR, if a couple prefers 100% participation and input from their respective families that's totally cool-- so long as the couple is in agreement and stands together through it.</p> You know, there will always be challenges and interferences and the ping-ponging between “your” family and “mine”… the only way I know to alleviate some of it and start training it to go away is for the couple to be on the same page and present a really united front, so to speak. I don’t care if it’s my mom or his mom, if it’s not in line with US and OUR family, you’ll get stonewalled. OR, if a couple prefers 100% participation and input from their respective families that’s totally cool– so long as the couple is in agreement and stands together through it.

]]> By: Sikh Boi http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44624 Sikh Boi Fri, 03 Feb 2006 17:31:18 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44624 <p>DD - what you're talking about is what has stopped me from marrying any of my serious non-desi gfs. It's not the fear of divorce per se (I know divorce happens to same-culture and mixed couples alike), it's the fear of what would happen to our offspring post divorce.</p> <p>I remember one kid with a Sikh father and a (white) non-Sikh mother. A number of times, while he was at his mother's house (the father was the custodial parent), his non-Sikh grandmother would take him out and get him a haircut. It's hard enough growing up Sikh and keeping your kesh, it's even harder when there's no consistency to it, and you're being used as a ping-pong.</p> <p>In some ways, just as with a desi marriage, you weren't just marrying a person you were marrying their entire family. I just couldn't take the chance on trying an interfaith, intercultural marriage with some of the in-laws that would have been a part of the equation. Never told them that though - love you, but hate your mom, and if we get divorced, she'll make our childrens' lives hell.</p> <p>-- Sikh B&#246i</p> DD – what you’re talking about is what has stopped me from marrying any of my serious non-desi gfs. It’s not the fear of divorce per se (I know divorce happens to same-culture and mixed couples alike), it’s the fear of what would happen to our offspring post divorce.

I remember one kid with a Sikh father and a (white) non-Sikh mother. A number of times, while he was at his mother’s house (the father was the custodial parent), his non-Sikh grandmother would take him out and get him a haircut. It’s hard enough growing up Sikh and keeping your kesh, it’s even harder when there’s no consistency to it, and you’re being used as a ping-pong.

In some ways, just as with a desi marriage, you weren’t just marrying a person you were marrying their entire family. I just couldn’t take the chance on trying an interfaith, intercultural marriage with some of the in-laws that would have been a part of the equation. Never told them that though – love you, but hate your mom, and if we get divorced, she’ll make our childrens’ lives hell.

– Sikh B&#246i

]]> By: DesiDancer http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44622 DesiDancer Fri, 03 Feb 2006 17:19:21 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44622 <p>jai, I don't think desis have an exclusive on this type of behavior. In my experience, it's been a <em>more</em> prevalent behavior, on the non-desi side of my family.</p> jai, I don’t think desis have an exclusive on this type of behavior. In my experience, it’s been a more prevalent behavior, on the non-desi side of my family.

]]> By: Jai http://sepiamutiny.com/blog/2006/02/02/famous_blackbro/comment-page-1/#comment-44617 Jai Fri, 03 Feb 2006 16:58:58 +0000 http://sepiamutiny.com?p=2955#comment-44617 <blockquote>Maybe because I don't have children, but I just can't figure out how one reconciles "loving" one's child and reacting so strongly to their identity. Man. Wow. </blockquote> <p>You know, some would say that this was a very desi way to react indeed.....</p> Maybe because I don’t have children, but I just can’t figure out how one reconciles “loving” one’s child and reacting so strongly to their identity. Man. Wow.

You know, some would say that this was a very desi way to react indeed…..

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