Actually, I can’t stand The Apprentice. My opinion of Big being hot doesn’t automatically turn me into an alpha male groupie, nor does it make the fantasy created for the target SATC demographic into my own personal fantasy. Did you miss the part where I said I wouldn’t put up with the same sh*t Big gave Carrie?

Typo, should say “My earlier points etc”

My point was that, either by accident or by design (and the fact that they kept blabbing personal relationship information to each other during their lunch get-togethers didn’t help either), they did not end up being emotionally closer to their partners than to their friends. Yes, close female friendships have their own unique dynamic (as do close male-male friendships), but ideally one’s partner should be one’s best friend too — that’s how close you two should be to each other and how well you should get on — and that was what was basically going wrong in the 4some’s lives.

Hence by earlier points about a) they were going for the wrong men for the wrong reasons, and b) they were behaving incorrectly and inappropriately with regards to divulging extremely personal information about the guy and/or the relationship to third parties, namely each other.

Why is it unhealthy to maintain close friendships while in a long term romantic relationship? Why is it unusual for somebody to remain close to friends that they’ve had for over 10 years longer than they’ve had the relationship?

I don’t understand why men and women are supposed to abandon their friendships to make their relationships work, or even to downgrade them. These are different spheres of life, and while you should always be friends with your partner, that doesn’t mean that your partner should eclipse all other friends.

• They were very immature for their age(s).
• They were quite petty in the reasons why they were breaking up with some of the guys they were involved with.
• They would tell each other far too much about the intricacies and “personal details” of their relationships with the various men — it negated the actual & potential emotional intimacy with the guys.
• They were closer to each other emotionally than they were to the guys they went out with, even if the relationships with the various men became semi-long-term. In some ways this wasn’t surprising as they would sometimes get involved with guys for completely the wrong reasons, but none of that was a good basis to build a “proper” long-term relationship upon.

However, I did think that the depiction of the various arguments and fallings-out Carrie had with Big was the best part of the show — very realistic sometimes and often completely spot-on (especially the final, screaming argument they had on the street when Carrie is shouting at him “You and me — nothing !! “).

i’m some sort of freak for my generation arent i?

no. because there’s two of us! i was watching re-runs of 60′s and 70′s shows trying avoid that kinda stuff.