Comments on: Yet another arranged marriage story only

By: jessie jalz

jessie jalz — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 21:39:11 +0000

Hi! I am JESSIE. I am a filipina, single mom and now working at UAE. I met my man at work. Our first meeting was strange. We’d became good friends in our workplace and time goes by there’s this special feelings we felt for each other. He is an indian national. His handsome, attractive and very nice to me. For now we’re dating every off and we’re knowing each other on the process. On our first date, He says that our meeting was a destiny. I don’t think so? I am a person who dont believe in destiny but now, I am starting to appreciate that word. I feel happy when I am with him same as him with me. We went to beach only the two of us. We are swimming under the big full moon. I could barely remember it was so romantic. We also walk the long aisle of Jumeirah Beach for three succeeding hours without any hesitaions. I know we both feel the same but the THING is, he is already engaged to his fellow indian girl- arranged by his parents. What to do? I am falling inlove already with him and same with him also. We’re both inlove, but what to do? Is there a possible for the two of us?? I need help…

By: julie

julie — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 16:25:28 +0000

Hello,

I am an American girl who is dating a desi guy. He is originally from India but has lived in the US for over 10 years. We have been dating for 10 months and plan on getting married. His family shares traditional views about arranged marriages. His sister had an arranged marriage and had to give up on her true love. She was told they knew best for her and she should marry someone else. Well she did not because she was much to afraid to go against her parents wishes. I just want to share that finding someone who you are madly in love with and knowing that it feels so righ based on shared moral standards, ambitions,goals and love that you share is amazing. I feel so sorry for people who will live life without knowing true love because it is the most beautiful thing that makes life all worth the while. I feel so sad by the fact that his sister like many Indian females are blackmailed into living lives they do not really want. I hope that this changes one day. Lets be realistic what are they afraid of? The premarital sex, divorse, cheating?? It is happening now and slowing changing in India. I hope that people will liberate their minds past old traditions. I think women and men should be given a choice. I had a choice and found the most amazing man in the world for me. I know I will make him a proud husband. I may not be Indian but I will be a good wife.

God bless.

By: tamo

tamo — Fri, 22 May 2009 14:43:02 +0000

More often than not people are so used to people talking nonsense to them on first dates that if you tell them the truth it comes as very surprising and also attractive. Having to strengthen your character with BA s or what not just begs the question what is he/she compensating for. The bates “dates” i have been on have involved conversation which has barely touched on the academic or work side of life. Its just more exciting, different and above all not like talking to someones parents. “Spontaneous love”; isnt it something we all dream about when we are younger but slowly forget as time moves on. peace and love

By: Rahul

Rahul — Sat, 14 Jan 2006 02:08:20 +0000

I think she is unfit to get married and can better stay as single and have fun with guys as she is currently doing.. I pity the man who gets married to her as I am sure it will be a nightmare for him to live with such opinionated and unfaithful wife.

By: sidra

sidra — Sat, 02 Apr 2005 07:23:14 +0000

Interesting read, but that girl is way too picky–I’m sure she will be single for a long time! The writer seems to think she is ‘all that’ while really, she may be educated, but she sounds really slutty and not the type who would be a faithful wife. (CBCD Girl)

By: PunjabeeBoy

PunjabeeBoy — Thu, 31 Mar 2005 07:50:25 +0000

Ironically the author still traffics in the exact same stereotypes she accuses her parents of; chiefly name-dropping Harvard and Pulitzer. My advice would be to grow up and marry whoever makes you happy.

By: DesiDancer

DesiDancer — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 16:39:24 +0000

I think that as we get older and pass that magic Def-Con-5 chronological line of 30 years of age, we just tire of the same dating BS. If you've dated enough to know what you will and will NOT put up with, your required time to assess a potential partner decreases. Perhaps more reference points of comparison, perhaps experience narrows down your list of criteria...

the upside to our culture, despite the awkward dating and annoying prodding of Aunties, is that it lends itself to an open dialogue from the word "go". In dating a westerner, it is probably not a good idea to ask them how much they make, what their qualifications are, or if they're a mommy's boy, or whatever, on the first date. (tried it. doesn't go over)But you can roll up on a desi date and throw all your cards on the table, because if you're of that age then it's understood that you're getting screened down for potential life-companionship. Or at least serious about your compatibility

By: rrr

rrr — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 06:08:53 +0000

Good lord, I don’t know which sucks worse, arranged marriages or dating.

By: Raju

Raju — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 03:16:53 +0000

*i’m not one of the cool guys

By: Raju

Raju — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 03:16:03 +0000

I know it shouldn't be these kinds of stories make me feel like a dork

i rationalize it by thinking that the main reason the indian guys in this story are dorks is because they are responding to profiles put up by the moms and dads. otherwise, this story is just like one big dork-fest of indians. i'm not one of them but i just hold out hope that there's some indian dudes who are not dorks